The Why

By Kristin Steinmetz

It’s been awhile since my last blog.  We’ve been pretty overwhelmed with everything involved in FINALLY opening our official CrossFit box we have been planning and working towards for the last year. Tonight, I had some rare downtime and I started to think about a quote that comes up pretty often in the Facebook/Instagram rounds:

“The greatest pleasure in life is doing what other people say you cannot do.”

There are several versions, some talk about revenge while others mention taking joy in proving other people wrong.  But they all point to the same catalyst for action: other people and their perception of you.  There is something that really bothers me about these quotes.  I think it’s really unhealthy when other people’s opinions, especially people who probably don’t love and support you, become the motivation for anything you do!

Now, I am guilty of worrying about other people’s perceptions of me.  We have had many people, some that we even call friends, doubt our motivations in opening a CrossFit and even our ability to pull it off.  And yes, it made us angry and sad and we probably spent too much time thinking about it.  But if we were doing all of this simply for the opportunity to piss people off, we would already be failures. 

So WHY start something? We started this because we love CrossFit and we’re good business people and we want to help people.  Period.  And we keep reminding ourselves that as long as we keep the best interests those we love – our family, friends and athletes – as our number one priority, we will be doing this for the right reason and we will be “successful”.  Because we know that we would rather have 50 happy people coexisting as a community and accomplishing their individual goals than 150 people on a revolving door paying their membership fees.

So now we come to you.  What is your why? What is the reason that you want to set goals and achieve them, inside and outside of the gym?  Because if that reason is anything other than your own happiness and the resulting happiness of those closest to you, you’re already doomed to fail. Do you want to feel young? Get healthy? Find a new hobby? Try something new? Great!!! Do you want to show your disapproving mother you can finish something you started or piss off that frenemy that was always skinnier than you?  No.  Find a new why.  One that starts with YOU. 

“You are the only person that thinks in your mind. You are the power and authority in your world.” – Louise Hay

Now there’s a quote I love (ever since I made it my high school yearbook quote). You are the boss of you!! And, at the end of the day, no matter what anything thinks or says, you are the only one suffering or benefitting from the consequences of your daily decisions.

Now, if showing some doubters you could do something is a by-product of those thoughtful decisions and hard work to achieve those goals…well, that’s what we call a bonus.  So, go for it! Make that career change; break up with that boyfriend; book that trip; join CrossFit TreeHouse.  And do it for the right reasons. Your reasons.

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